Elegance

I just love the elegance and grace that the first Lady Michelle Obama has; she just looks great in her gowns and clothing. I also like the look that Jackie O wore, those polished suits and box hats and kitty shoes, which are back in style. Beautiful first ladies not concerned with titles but just standing by their husbands. I have learned so much from reading about Jackie O and Michelle Obama on how to just conducting yourself as a woman with grace,class and style.

So what exactly is "style", defined in the english dictionary it states " a manner of doing something" or "design or make in a particluar form". I think each individual has his or her own style. Me personally I love my wardrobe with the pencil skirts, tailored jackets and kitty shoes, have not quite got the pill hat, but I will adorn my crown with a cloak hat. How fabulous that Michelle Obama takes something from H&M or J Crew and makes it her own style. Which speaks volume that one does not have to wear a $300.00 suit to look good.

So whatever your style or look that works for you wear it with class and elegance don't worry about what others say. You have your own style and wear it well! Fabuloso (spanish)

Beautiful Bride

I love what I do, My job is to make people happy on their special day. The days leading up to the event can be busy & stressful for the bride, so my job is to ease the stress. I am happy my business is prospering. Have I learned alot? Yes. Each event that I do, I am writing down little gliches that happen. This makes it alot easy for the next wedding, party, bar mitzvah for me and my team.

Although my job is so much more than keeping the stress down. We have alot to accomplish, make list of things to do, keep the budget under control and deal with the families involved. Not only can a wedding coordinator offer you just that, We can also provide the rules for proper wedding etiquette. When the bride or couple initially meet with me, I will most likely bring to mind decisions that they weren’t aware they would have to make. Like when wedding party need to get in to the sanctuary/lobby to line up for ceremony entrance. What time rehearsal begins, changing rooms, stage needs, who is ushering etc..We also coordinate with musician(s) for cues during ceremony and set the stage for a beautiful day.

So that is my Job, but you know what I love what I do.

Happy

Recently I have been exploring what Happiness is and I can truly say that Iam HAPPY. Can you buy happiness from your local grocer? NO. Being Happy has to be something that is within you. Happiness is a choice you have to make. I have decided that I will have happiness and live a peaceful life.


What makes me happy is now that the weather is cooling down, it’s a good time to be outside enjoying nature. In fact, some say that autumn is the best time of the year for being outdoors (at least for me it's cooler). Apple picking, taking long walks with hubby, sipping a great cup of java or cider talking with  friends makes me happy. Laughing is something I love doing hearing a great joke or just being around my family & friends who love to laugh, and have positive attitudes is beautiful. 

So what can cause someone to be unhappy. FORGIVENESS It’s impossible to get through life without being hurt by someone you love or care about ok! we have all experienced this. Rather than harbor a grudge or resentment, let it go forgive those who hurt you. Forgiveness ends quarrels, eases pain, restores peace, and promotes inner health. I have learned it simply takes much more energy to be mad at someone, let that thing go and live a healthy life. Life is so precious and God has blessed you and I with long life and that is what we want. So get rid of the stinking thinking it cant live here no more. There is power in positive thinking it can change and improve your life. Maintaining positive thinking and attitude will drive you to success and happiness.

Ouch!

Weddings can be very stressful on everyone involved in the beautiful day. The bride has planning and decision making that takes a toll on her emotionally. The family on both sides want to be involved which can become chaotic. With that being said I was checking my email when I came across this article of a step-mom who sent her future daughter-in-law a disturbing email on her manners? Wow! I thought she really said what was bothering her. So let's talk; for all you brides and brides to be what do you think. Family can and could be involved in your future nuptials; because you are marrying into another family and in some cases a different culture. So what do you do when first impressions don't turn out so impressionable with your furture in-laws. How does this behavior affect the future marriage of the happy couple.

 Speak to me ladies was this Mom-zilla a little to forward? read snippets of the email below and let me know. I guess first impressions is taking very serious in this household and should, but when does it go to far. There's no denying it's harsh, but if you've ever been in the line of fire in a wedding party, you know that sometimes marriage anxieties strike darkness in the hearts of man. What do you think......ouch!

from: Carolyn Bourne
to: heidi withers
subject: your lack of manners

Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

You do not start before everyone else.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.)

If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.

Hat Day.

Ladies!!! my church is having a Hat Day...yeah! You get to wear your most fabulous hat and just look great with your beautiful self. For many woman looking your best from head to toe is imperative going to church, and some of the woman I have seen their hat game is serious. Nowadays it is often the more elder African American woman who dress up with hats on Sunday morning. To many of these women and their ancestors, dressing up for church was a good feeling for them they are looking their best for the Lord.  I would remember my grandmother (Mo. Alice Daniels) would wear her hat, white gloves, handbag and be sharp. That was her way I guess of celebrating from wearing aprons all week taking care of  seven children, cooking, cleaning,  and working in the fields - so on Sunday those garments were replaced by bright colors, fancy shoes and elaborate hats that would stand out in a crowd. Style and sophistication would rule the day.

Now the hat cannot be just any hat; shopping requires serious effort before choosing the correct hat that worked an outfit. Most woman will visit their favorite shops or boutiques for that special different hat, and some are humongous but  they caught your eye....watch out now! The hats are the show stopper to the outfit giving it the Oooh! look at her. Most woman want to look stunnning regardless of where they tread their feet, but its something about Sunday morning girlfriend they must have it together. Although the culture and tradition still remains elder African American woman would not be caught without their hats on Sunday morning.

So join us for our Hat Day come hear an awesome word from God, fellowship with beautiful people, and wear your best hat as we celebrate our stunning selves. I would advise anyone to come early so you can get a seat up front because with the hats that day sitting in the back will not be good for you....lol.