Ouch!

Weddings can be very stressful on everyone involved in the beautiful day. The bride has planning and decision making that takes a toll on her emotionally. The family on both sides want to be involved which can become chaotic. With that being said I was checking my email when I came across this article of a step-mom who sent her future daughter-in-law a disturbing email on her manners? Wow! I thought she really said what was bothering her. So let's talk; for all you brides and brides to be what do you think. Family can and could be involved in your future nuptials; because you are marrying into another family and in some cases a different culture. So what do you do when first impressions don't turn out so impressionable with your furture in-laws. How does this behavior affect the future marriage of the happy couple.

 Speak to me ladies was this Mom-zilla a little to forward? read snippets of the email below and let me know. I guess first impressions is taking very serious in this household and should, but when does it go to far. There's no denying it's harsh, but if you've ever been in the line of fire in a wedding party, you know that sometimes marriage anxieties strike darkness in the hearts of man. What do you think......ouch!

from: Carolyn Bourne
to: heidi withers
subject: your lack of manners

Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

You do not start before everyone else.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.)

If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.